There was a time in my life when I thought things would just “work out.” If I kept showing up, doing my best, and hoping for the best, the pieces would eventually fall into place. But what I’ve learned—sometimes the hard way—is that real change doesn’t come by chance. It comes when we decide to stop drifting and start steering.

Jim Rohn said it plainly: “Your life does not get better by chance; it gets better by change.” That line hit me like a bolt of lightning the first time I heard it. It still does. Because if we want something different in our lives—more purpose, more peace, better health, deeper connections—it’s on us to choose it, to work for it, and to act on it.

Here are 10 practical ways I’ve used—and still use—to live that truth:

1. Get Clear on What You Really Want

Don’t chase someone else’s version of success. Write down three things you truly want for you. Clarity is power.

2. Break It Down

Big goals can feel overwhelming. Break them into small, daily steps. When I wanted to get healthier, I didn’t start with a gym membership—I just started walking every morning.

3. Make It Visual

I’ve got quotes on my wall, reminders on my phone, and sticky notes on my desk. We move toward what we see.

4. Schedule It Like It Matters—Because It Does

I block time on my calendar for what matters most, even if it’s just 15 minutes. If it’s not scheduled, it usually doesn’t happen.

5. Track the Little Wins

Whether it’s a checkmark, a journal entry, or just saying “I did it” out loud—it helps. Progress fuels progress.

6. Don’t Do It Alone

Some of my biggest breakthroughs came from people who believed in me before I believed in myself. Find your people.

7. Cut One Thing That’s Holding You Back

Maybe it’s scrolling. Maybe it’s overcommitting. Let one thing go to make room for what you really want.

8. Celebrate More Often

I used to wait until the big goal was done. Now I celebrate the steps along the way. It keeps things joyful.

9. Learn from What Didn’t Work

When I miss a goal, I ask, “What did this teach me?” Then I reset. No shame, just learning.

10. Say This Out Loud: “Change Is Up to Me”

I say it often—because it’s easy to forget. But the truth is, I’m not waiting for life to happen to me. I’m shaping it. One small step at a time.

If there’s something you’ve been waiting for, consider this your nudge. Don’t wait for someday. Start today—with one small change.