Don’t Lose Touch: Practical Ways to Keep the Connections That Matter Most
There’s a phrase we all use too casually: “We just lost touch.”
I’ve said it. You’ve said it. Sometimes it’s about an old friend from college. Sometimes it’s a cousin we used to be close to. Sometimes, heartbreakingly, it’s someone who was once central to our lives. And yet—somehow—we let time, distance, busyness, or distraction pull us apart.
As I reflect on the relationships that have shaped me—family, friends, mentors—I realize how easily life can slide into autopilot. We mean to reach out. We plan to call. But the days keep moving, and we fall out of rhythm. Before we know it, years have passed. And with them, opportunities for laughter, support, celebration, and meaning.
Staying connected in a world that constantly pulls us in different directions isn’t always easy. But it’s worth it. Today, I want to share a few simple, doable ways to keep the connections that matter most alive and thriving.
1. Put Connection on Your Calendar
We schedule meetings, workouts, and dentist appointments—why not schedule check-ins with people we love?
I keep a short list of “don’t lose touch” people. Once a month, I review it and ask, When did I last talk to them? If it’s been a while, I’ll send a quick message, call, or suggest a coffee. It doesn’t have to be a deep conversation every time—it’s the gesture that matters.
Pro tip: Use recurring reminders in your phone or task manager (I use OmniFocus) to prompt regular outreach.
2. Make Use of the Tools You Already Have
You don’t need a fancy app or master plan—just a little intention. A photo memory pops up on your phone? Send it to the person in the picture and say, “This made me smile today. Thinking of you.”
Social media can also be a bridge. Don’t just scroll—engage. Comment on a post, send a direct message, or ask a follow-up question. Even a simple “How’s life treating you?” can spark reconnection.
3. Create Tiny Traditions
Some of my favorite connections are rooted in rituals. A friend of mine sends me the same funny meme every Friday. It started as a joke, but now it’s a rhythm. You can build little traditions: monthly breakfast with a sibling, a group text to celebrate small wins, or even a birthday phone call you always make.
Tiny habits, repeated over time, become the glue of lasting connection.
4. Send the Message—Even If It’s Been a While
You don’t need a perfect reason to reach out. Just say, “I know it’s been a while, but you popped into my mind and I wanted to say hello.” That simple act opens the door. Most people are grateful, not judgmental.
Relationships don’t have to be perfect to be meaningful. They just need attention.
5. Choose Connection Over Perfection
You don’t need to wait until you have the perfect words, the perfect timing, or a long block of free time. A two-minute message can mean more than a perfectly crafted email you never send.
When in doubt, just hit “send.” Show up. Say something. Let people know they matter.
6. Be a Connector for Others
Sometimes the best way to deepen a connection is to create it for others. Introduce old friends to new friends. Start a small group text around a shared interest. Host a casual dinner or virtual meetup. When you create spaces for others to connect, your relationships naturally deepen as well.
7. Remember That Life Is Short—But Connection Is Long
Time moves fast. People drift apart. However, the truth is that most relationships can be rekindled with a single act of care.
You don’t have to reconnect with everyone. But think about who makes your life better. Who encourages you? Who makes you laugh? Who feels like home, even if you haven’t talked in a while?
Reach out to them. Today. Not someday. Not next week. Just… today.
Final Thought: Connection Is a Choice
In a world full of noise and notifications, genuine connection is one of the most powerful gifts we can give each other. It doesn’t have to be big or elaborate. It just has to be real.
So don’t wait. Pick up the phone. Send the message. Make the visit. Strengthen the thread.
Because in the end, the people we stay connected to—they’re the ones who shape our lives the most.
